Replying to LO30797 --
HelLO, here is part 2 of my additions to your TOL
> 2. Most people will rise to seriousness if provoked skilfully.
Set their chair on fire will also work. Also, people might expect The
Spanish Inquisition. Spinoza - who else - said: "caute", be careful.
So it is not only provoking but also offering enough safety.
>3. In our experience, we find some things that are successful
>stimulation for #2, that is, things that succeed in provoking people
>to seriousness. Some of these serve as useful ongoing exercises for
>those so provoked:
>
> - Visioning: think about your life exactly the way you want it to
>be, talk about what you really care about
> - Conversations: listen to others talk about what they really care
>about
> - Centring: reaching a meditative state of heightened
>concentration and awareness
> - Great Life Events: life changing events can provoke reflection,
>but these are generally not under our control
OK, so people are kicked or lured into the salvation loop.
Salvation loop ("my life's meaningful issues"):
I'm concerned about my life --> I feel inadequate --(solution: accept
your feelings)--> I examine my life, my emotions, thoughts and
feelings --> I notice gap between TIU and TE --> develop your own ways
of mediating, facilitating between TIU (belief) and TE (effect of
beliefs) --> live your life according to your own choice --> feel
less inadequate.
I would like to suggest that there is a grid lock waiting here,
because somehow i / we've been to these events, i / we believe in
them, but yet, the system didn't change.... Somehow every "solution"
creates accidental adversaries and/or tragedies of the commons and/or
drifting standards ... it's probably in the remainder of your theory.
>4. Personal Mastery: Some ways of thinking are more powerful than
>other ways. What we carry in our mind tends to become realized. The
>"unbendable arm" Aikido exercise illustrates this. This can be
>developed and strengthened by practice. (See #6 below.)
.... hmmm assumption of powerfulness --> implies a feeling of
powerlessness. I think here: "we can use our conscious thinking to
seek solutions. We might use the tension between my vision and current
reality to catapult ourselves to more creative solutions". Having a
skilfully moderated dialogue - like here - helps.
> 5. It is more engaging and energizing to figure out something
>yourself than to hear someone else describe their analysis of the
>system and it's dysfunctions. This is true even if that "someone else"
>is an expert whose analysis may be more insightful than your own.
This is why i prefer to work as a facilitator: the problem with an
expert is role confusion. An expert often takes or is forces to take
the role of a father, a father figure. Most people can relate to that,
as they've had fathers themselves. One of the problems that emerges
here is respect. As i pay respect to a father, a consultant, i loose
some "money" and - in the end - will feel more inadequate. What is
more difficult is to stay on the level of an adult - and sometimes
even children can behave like adults - and keep the mutual respect
intact or try to grow some.
Addiction loop ("wallow in muddy waters"):
I'm concerned about my life --> I feel inadequate --(quick fix, first
reaction) --> I consult an expert who offers some relief (! pun
intended) --(side effect)--> however I've not invented "it" myself
--(reinforces)--> confirms I'm inadequate and unable to not challenge
the experts
This also blocks the salvation loop ("my life's meaningful issues"):
I'm concerned about my life --> I feel inadequate --(solution: accept
your feelings)--> I examine my life, my emotions, thoughts and feelings
WITH AN EXPERT --> I notice gaps between TIU, TE and experts opinions
and presciptions --> unable to develop my own ways of mediating,
facilitating between TIU (belief) and TE (effect of beliefs) --> feel
more inadequate.
So a true ecspert (pun: now we have the same letters as in: respect)
would keep the salvation loop ("my life's meaningful issues") intact:
I'm concerned about my life --> I feel inadequate --(solution: accept
your feelings)--> I examine my life, my emotions, thoughts and feelings
in a dialogue with a coach, mediator, counselor, facilitator (= ecspert)
--> I notice gap between TIU and TE --> develop my own ways of
mediating, facilitating between TIU (belief) and TE (effect of beliefs)
--> live your life according to your own choice --> feel less inadequate.
>6. Capacities (skills, abilities) for learning and for depth are
>missing for many people. These skills can be developed like the way
>muscles can be strengthened. Practice, instruction in specific
>methods, and coaching all help develop these capacities. Reading about
>the theory of doing so has little effect.
Or perhaps they are shut down. When you've not been introduced to
critical thinking before the age of say 20, it is exceedingly
difficult to learn. When you've learned two languages as a child, a
third one is learned more easily. It is the same - i assume - with
learning capacity. When you've maintained your disposition for
learning - sometimes because you've been kicked out of school -
practice - even through reading and writing - makes perfect. Also, you
have to maintain a certain frustration, have to stay feeling
inadequate, a bit grumpy.
Later - I will attend (and facilitate a workshop) the next two days on
the Dutch IT Architect Conference - more,
Jan
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