The Pivotal Technique LO30838

From: Jan Lelie (
Date: 12/04/03

Hello Terry,

Yes, i think so; there is another technique, that i found helpful:

 1. when ever you've made your "vision" choice, try to experience the
result, the outcome, the future;
 2. feel your choice and become aware of "second thoughts". These
occur or tend to pop-up as a by-product of the result you choose. This
can be anything, like "people will laugh at me" or "it has already
been done" or "i'll loose interest" or "this will never work" or
 3. The next step is to accept the first "second thought": so
experience the feeling of being laughed at ("i feel silly" and really
feel the feeling), then see where this feeling projects itself - where
the tension manifests itself - in your body, see how large it is and
release the tension.
 4. Again experience your choice and feel a second "second thought"
and apply the same strategy.
 5. Go on till no more second thoughts pop-up and reconfirm your

At first this will take some time, but when you're accustomed to it,
you can do it fast; or you do it in the car while driving or so.

The psychology behind it, is that what blocks us most is not the
tension of the unacheived vision, but the rejection of the negative
labelling surrounding the feelings. The trainer who thought me this
explained it as follows: imagine that your feelings are your children,
your offspring. Now, imagine that some of your children are not
allowed at the meals (= bad feelings are suppressed). The child or
children not present give the largest tension, pressure, unrest. Most
of the times we start repressing them more, so our attention shifts
from the vision (= the meal) to repressing negative feelings or
emotions. That is - in other words - the addiction loop of being
rational that - after some time - makes people behave as if they are
shallow or busy.

I'm now reading the new book by Damasio - in Dutch called "Het gelijk
van Spinoza" something like Spinoza was right -. In it he expands his
ideas and findings presented in "Descartes's Error": feelings are used
to make complex choices fast and feelings use maps of the body to
express these choices (often found in sayings, like fear that grips
your throath or butterflies in your stomage). That is because these
mechanisms - the mental maps of the body - were available at the time
of development of feelings - a typical evolutionary reverse
engineering processes. These views support the techniques we're
talking about.

Feel free to react,


Terry Priebe wrote:

>My experience concurs with the 4 points you mentioned in LO30826.
>It's simply amazing how consistently successful working with those points
>are. Going that way, you don't attach "tension" directly... you "dissolve"
>it. The psychology behind the process is fascinating and so applicable to
>life, in general.
>Best Regards, Terry Priebe


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