Failure in family framework? LO30963

From: Marysa de Veer (marysa@deveer.co.uk)
Date: 02/19/04


Replying to LO30918 Glenn Wainman --

Dear Glenn, I am a book binder and new to Learning-org. Please
therefore accept my writing in the spirit to which it is intended a
learner, learning whilst writing it is a collage of thoughts...

... an elephant and I ~ Tsavo Park Kenya - on a hill overlooking a
look out clambering up - coming face to face huge ears huge body large
trunk fantastic tusks elephants eyes looking directly into my eyes,
the eyes of an 11 year old girl - the picture stays with me today as
though it was yesterday the elephant could have destroyed me if he had
wanted to but no, there was a quiet but powerful dialogue between us
before he ambled off back down the hill from whence he had come...

Jaworski describes his experience of coming face to face with an
ermine in much the same way we humans connect with one another on such
levels without examining why or how equally we can clam up. How does
one break down such blocks?

We come back to my elephant, and the unconsciously reached level of
communication between a wild elephant and a girl. If one can fathom
the construct behind why people dialogue barriers occur we may have
the seed of a solution in overcoming them.

Glenn writes

>I don't expect to change the world for these people just start them
>with a stronger work ethic towards teamwork and leadership

Perhaps you are the 'spark' that will ignite an evolution in your
organization towards a stronger work ethic in teamwork and leadership
- like the Clinnamon, described by Lucretius who writes "sometimes at
uncertain times and places, the eternal, universal fall of the atoms
is disturbed by a very slight deviation - the clinamen. The resulting
vortex gives rise to the world, to all natural things"

> learning in relationship is a key to change , but then the whole
>idea of a thesis as a question rather than an answer, is that I will
>come to it, rather than bring it to the organization.

>From which angle will you approach? Maybe it is not necessary to know
from which angle to approach but to sow the seeds over the land with
care, watching over them only to see that the shoots that spring forth
are not of our intentions but greater. Perhaps in sowing the seeds,
one acts as a midwife of change and in so doing we become the servants
as oppose to the masters thus leaving our egos behind and letting our
minds 'float' in the common goal within which a reality emerges that
we could never have dreamed of -

David Bohm writes
When you listen to somebody else,
whether you like it or not,
what they say becomes part of you ...
the common pool is created,
where people begin suspending their own opinions
and listening to other people's ...
At some point people begin recognising that
this common pool is more important than their separate pools"

This approach does not seek to come in with a hammer and bash the
system Did you know that to the Greeks 'dia-logos' meant a
free-flowing of meaning through a group, allowing the group to
discover insights not attainable individually? I think collaboration
springs from rich dialogues and it is from such springs as this, that
one discovers the pattern design for the future ...

Glenn writes

>I work for a large ambulance service which pays to train hundreds of
>volunteers per year. There are about three thousand volunteers and
>twelve hundred full time paramedics. Training is all science(skills
>based protocols founded in observation and questions relating to
>signs and symptoms). There is an aging workforce on the verge of
>retirement, and along with these experienced people will go our art.
>The art of pre-hospital care is in quick relationship building and
>teamwork with police fire and hospital workers....Moral is low
>because of poor change communication from the top, and employee self
>esteem is also in the dumper due in some part to poor relationship
>building with other emergency work teams, and labour relations that
>are slowly moving up from abysmal.

Glenn you describe what appear to be separate parts of a whole
separate parts of a whole, as oppose to separate parts of a WHOLE how
does one WHOLENESS a system in flux? in flux giving birth can be a
painful process (ow!) Flux may be part of the labour

A simplistic possibility:
listen>compassion>love>shared vision>explicit>tacit = emergence >
cycle of unfoldings
..thus the midwife (Glenn) helps with the birthing process of change.

If, as Jaworski suggests, love is at the heart of all, it would not
come as a surprise to hear that Ancient Egyptians thought so little of
the brain that during mummification, they removed it entirely from the
body, believing instead that the heart was the center of intelligence
and emotion. I would interpret this to suggest that it is the heart
that should allowed to come forward - all the hearts in the
organization -

 
Good luck and may you and the ambulance organisation be rewarded by
your efforts...
But if all else fails Glenn, I found this quote to amuse "Lord, grant
me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to
try to change the things I can, and the wisdom to hide the bodies of
the people I had to kill because they pissed me off." (unknown)

With warmest regards and best wishes

Marysa de Veer
marysa@deveer.co.uk

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