Learning and trust LO13208

C. Suzanne Deakins (sdeakins@teleport.com)
Sat, 12 Apr 1997 09:15:26 -0700 (PDT)

Replying to LO13178 --

Dear List:

This may or not may fit this discussion, but not trusting the world is
learned through NOT having been able to have our "trusting" needs met as
children. As children we may not have been taught what trust is by
example, for instance thinking we were going to zoo on Saturday and having
a change of plans happen. Small insignificant changes to parents, big
anti-trust building incidences of life for a child. It is not one of
these incidences but a continual stream that causes the problem. BUT real
lack of trust often comes as an adult when we feel we have been betrayed.
I personally do not feel that anyone can return to a state of innocense,
but perhaps we can have a different understanding of the happenings in our
life, seeing them as teaching events that help us become more aware of
life and how our actions are often the causing influenced for the
resulting reaction we experience. Trust comes as adults when we learn
enough about ourselves to realize that we are capable of recognizing value
and worth in others and in our self and know that many times situations
present themselves as the lessons needed for the next step in personal
consciousness growth.

Trust deals with only one person and that is our self. We can only trust
our world to the degree we understand our self and our needs, our desires
and our internal motivations. Trust in deity, and however you define this
personally in your life, works, but you are asked by all deity to make the
final choices mentally and emotionally. And it is in these choices that
you must know and understand yourself to be able to trust the worldly
interaction. To say that each action you take is "deity inspired and
deity responsible," places the responsibility for life decisions outside
of your control. This is perhaps okay for a while, but eventually we must
all face our own consciousness and unconscious and its' part in life's

These statements are in no manner meant to discourage prayer, meditation
and the asking for guidance in life from deity or higher sources. BUT if
we continue to place the control and responsibility for reactions and life
happenings outside of our self, who do we turn to in a real crisis, for
guidance and help? That is, if your deity is the ultimate causer in your
life, and you lose a child, or spouse, whom do you beseech for comfort,
guidance and peace? And do you see these as your ultimate punishment for
misbehavior? Or do you turn to yourself and seek to understand the cycles
of life and deal with your personal reactions to life circumstances, then
turning to deity for the grace, peace and guidance needed for decisions
and actions you must take?

Just some thoughts. Hope they add to the conversation...it is very

Suzanne Deakins, Ph.D.


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